Why does the white-collar become marriage city easily slow-moving

Have the cummer with a favorable family financial situation, appearance grows beautifully, temperament is decorous and free from vulgarity, on the career quite successful, economic income does not poor, can arrive 30 years old namely still is alone. The reason is very simple, the white horse prince in her memory should be in the respect such as appearance, career, economy and oneself match, ability talks about marriage talking to marry.

We if conversion thinks one time, discover this is the distress of female of a few white-collars not hard. Because, in theirs in choose idol idea, this " match " what majority indicates is each other explicit condition, is not affection between " match " . The choose of this 21 centuries occasionally idea, talk about marriage talking to marry compared with ancient time those who advocate " Yue of two affection photograph " still backed down it seems that many.

Newest census count data shows, 1982, our country of the right age is lone it is 1.74 million; Went to 8 million to rose 1990. But at this late hour, only the number with Nanjing city single of the right age was achieved 400 thousand, two ground of Beijing Shanghai are each more in 1 million above. The record of formal schooling of member of lone on the weekend club all is in Beijing Gong Feng above of three-year institution of higher learning, the number that register reachs 1000 much people. The female in above data is occupied 70% , among them majority is white-collar female. White-collar female is in person allowing the home anxious, make a society helpless, allow oneself awkward condition, having the factor that comparative among them is them subjective cause.

The expert points out to this analysis, the marriage in their tradition is subconscious in, the female is inferior to a man inherently; Accordingly, no matter be on the life, on the job, still be the respect such as economy have to man of leech on to. They accept although be modern culture, in one's heart is to circulated in the past however very wide marry chicken follows chicken, marry Chinese marry Chinese, clad those who have a meal is old choose idol idea. If oneself " condition " stronger than the other side, so, it is oneself see an eye oneself are incompetent, lose face, go on the street to carry do not come at first. Conversely, exert all over skill seeks a male strong person, ability can feel he has ability. White-collar female so do, be lay idea the scorn to the female, also be female oneself the scorn to oneself. Little imagine, with the white-collar and outstanding woman gets married, even if successful man also the heart puts apprehension, may not dare " make friends with a man of higher position " . Because, get along to it, often can have " altitude deeply cold " feeling, matrimony is difficult also stability, harmonious, long. Plant in this " be in a dilemma " below the state, white-collar female is forced have no alternative " flower " wither.

Some foreign enterprise does the acquaintance monthly pay of sectional manager to amount to 5000 yuan, 32 years old lone still. She says to me, how to long to obtain the man's love as young woman? Oneself see well more this bit, understand what man cannot be married more! Can be her this kind " sober " , let her be faced alone overflow long night, a kind of helpless loneliness is raided from time to time on mind. Alas! Know early now, why at the outset so " diligent " , or " a few poorer " good.
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